What is Divorce Mediation?

One of the most challenging aspects of the divorce process is coming to an agreement with your spouse. Child custody, spousal support, and division of assets will all come into question if you have not filed a prenuptial agreement. Unfortunately, if you’re reading this, you most likely know how intense a divorce can be. If you wish to reach the terms of your divorce outside of the litigation process, here are some of the questions you may have:

What is the litigation process?

Essentially, if you enter the litigation process, both you and your spouse will have to state your case in a courtroom setting. You will both speak, and either a judge or a jury will decide the terms of your divorce. Generally, this is not something that can be accomplished fairly and in one sitting. The litigation process is usually very time consuming, very expensive, and it is often very emotionally stressful on both you, your spouse, and your children. If you wish to avoid this process, you may have other options, such as arbitration or mediation.

What does a divorce mediator do, and how may I benefit from hiring one?

The goal of a divorce mediator is to settle the terms of your divorce as quickly and as fairly as possible. Essentially, a divorce mediator is an unbiased third party who has no affiliation or preference regarding you or your spouse. The three of you will sit down, and both you and your spouse will state your ideal terms for divorce, including which assets you believe you are entitled to. From here, it is the mediator’s job to facilitate a calm, civilized discussion in a neutral environment. If all goes as planned, by the end of your session, you and your spouse will have drafted terms for your divorce through a compromise from which you can both walk away satisfied.

Not only will you hopefully save time, money, and energy, but your kids will also most likely benefit from this process as well. As the litigation process is very often emotionally-charged, and sometimes even downright nasty, it may have a lasting impact on your children, which no loving parent would ever want. However, your children see their parents were able to settle their differences quickly and maturely, it may help mitigate the effects of your divorce significantly. Please note that you can hire a divorce mediator at any step of the process. You may even hire a divorce mediator if you have not yet filed.

Contact our New Jersey firm

The Law Office of Toby Grabelle, LLC is a family and divorce law firm serving Monmouth County and all of New Jersey that would be happy to assist you in legal counsel. If you need quality legal services, contact the firm for a consultation.