If you have children with your ex-spouse, co-parenting is a big part of your life. It doesn’t mean you have to communicate with your ex as you did in the past, but it’s critical that you remain on the same page for the well-being of your children.
You hope that you never come face-to-face with a co-parenting disagreement, but you’re pretty sure this will happen at some point. Fortunately, when you plan in advance, you may be able to hedge these off before they come to light.
Here are some of the most common causes of co-parenting disagreements:
- Parenting style: You parent one way, but your ex parents another. Even if it annoys you, there’s nothing you can do to change it. The best strategy is to discuss your concerns with your ex in the hope of finding common ground.
- Scheduling: For example, you’re the type who likes to follow a schedule down to every last detail. Your ex, however, is looser with their schedules, which can be a large source of frustration.
- Putting your children in the middle: Even if you do your best to keep your children out of your divorce, your ex may continually stick them in the middle. A common example of this is them telling your children that you were the cause of the divorce. Not only does it cause friction between you and your ex, but your children may begin to look at you unfavorably.
- Lack of flexibility: If both parents are flexible, it’s much easier to get along post-divorce. For instance, if your ex requests a change to an upcoming visit, look into ways to accommodate them. Even if it means altering your schedule, being flexible can help keep the peace.
You should never expect things to go as planned with co-parenting, as there are a variety of potential disagreements lurking around every corner. At some point, you won’t see eye-to-eye and an argument will ensue.
If your ex makes things difficult by ignoring the court-approved parenting agreement and visitation schedule, look into your legal rights for requesting a modification. It may be the best way to protect your parenting time with your children in the future.